You’ve had those moments. When you did something that really hurt someone you love. Maybe as a kid, you disappointed your parents by taking something that didn’t belong to you. Or maybe you said hurtful words to your parents. Or Maybe you betrayed a trust that a spouse had in you. There are so many different ways we need forgiveness in our life.
Wrong-doing or sin in the spiritual sense is when we miss the mark of how God has called us to live. It’s when we fall short to the expectations Jesus gives us to live a life as his disciple or follower. When we act out in ways that are un-godly or unlike Jesus, we call that sin. And relationally we know there are two realities we cannot deny.
Sin separates us from God so we need forgiveness. There are things we can do that we know we should not and there are things we know to do that we don’t. Either way, when we miss the mark of how God has called us to live, it’s sin. We need forgiveness for our mistakes from our Almighty God.
Forgive means to wipe the slate clean, to pardon and to cancel a debt. And Jesus offers to clean up our mess is we surrender to his Lordship and rule in our life. So when we say “yes” to following Jesus, we are saying “yes” to a repentant life and confess to God, and others, where we have gone wrong.
Now it’s easy to give a generic “I have messed up” but at the heart of forgiveness is acknowledging how it is you have sinned. So naming your sin out loud in your prayer life is so cleansing and a release. You will feel the burden lift from you as you talk to God about the type of person you want to be. We all need Jesus. No one is “good enough” to get to heaven on their own. So we need God’s forgiveness but there is also a second reality.
Sin separates us from others so we need to forgive them for how they have hurt us along the way. Forgiving someone is the act of setting someone free. We all want forgiveness for our poor choices but when it comes to others, we become very particular. We set qualifiers in place: “If they really repent…”, “If they ask me…”, “If enough time passes…", “If they make good on what they owe me…”. There are a number of ways we make excuses of why we can’t forgive someone
In the Lord’s Prayer in Matthew 6, Jesus says something interesting. He says, “If you forgive others, God will forgive you. If you don’t forgive others, God will not forgive you.” To the extent you will forgive is the amount you’ll be forgiven. Wow! That is tough.
But forgiveness is a process. Some of you have endured very difficult moments where offering forgiveness is needed from the drunk driver who took away a loved one to slurs about your ethnicity to hurtful words spoken by your parents. Some things definitely take longer to work through than others. What I’m saying though, as a Kingdom person, would you be willing to begin the process? Who will you begin to free today? Who will you release?
The beautiful thing about forgiveness is when you free that someone who hurt you, you become free yourself in the process! You discover that the entire time you held the key to your own prison door.
But too many times, we think revenge instead of forgiveness. But the Apostle Paul reminds us in Romans 12:17-21 that we leave the score-keeping to God. As followers of Jesus, we look at his example for us and mirror how he lived life. While Jesus hung on the cross, he asked God to forgive those who killed him. Kingdom people have a willingness to forgive.
So, may you find the courage to forgive. May you discover there’s a better way. May you unlock the door to your prison and run free. May the hurt that you’ve endured melt away in the shadow of the cross of Jesus. As Charles Spurgeon once said: “Go to Calvary to learn how you may be forgiven and then linger there to learn how to forgive others.” Blessings on your journey.